Whatever they might show in the movies or the soaps, getting angry gets you nowhere. Except into trouble, into a hospital, out of relationships and out of a job. People who lose their temper all the time eventually lose everything.
Don’t let this happen to you, it may be time to hold your hand up and ask for help! I am an experienced Wellness Coach based in the UK, helping people deal with their anger in productive ways. My Health & Well-being Group, Mindworks, offers a new integrated service to help people manage their emotions.
GPs report that they have few options for helping patients who come to them with anger problems.
There are approximately 50 published research studies that have tested some kind of intervention for anger problems with adults, and another 40 relating to children or adolescents, and researchers have concluded that successful treatments exist for adults, adolescents, and children. Here are some fascinating statistics about manage anger, most of which are publicly available through the British Association of Anger Management's public portal:
- Almost a third of people polled (32%) say they have a close friend or family member who has trouble controlling their anger.
- More than one in ten people (12%) say that they have trouble controlling their own anger.
- More than one in four people (28%) say that they worry about how angry they sometimes feel.
- One in five of people (20%) say that they have ended a relationship or friendship with someone because of how they behaved when they were angry.
- 64% either strongly agree or agree that people in general are getting angrier.
- Fewer than one in seven (13%) of those people who say they have trouble controlling their anger have sought help for their anger problems.
- 58% of people wouldn’t know where to seek help if they needed help with an anger problem.
- 84% strongly agree or agree that people should be encouraged to seek help if they have problems with anger.
Signs & symptoms of anger-related issues
There is a way to live where you can deal with your emotions and feel more leveled. There is a wide spectrum of anger issues that can be blocking someone from living the life they want to lead, including feeling frequently irritable and losing your temper. For some, they may feel overtaken by rage that, in extreme scenarios, can lead someone to be extremely aggressive, violent and even experience "black outs" and have little recollection of their actions during an episode of rage. The anger can also be paired with violent thoughts, including those where the person thinks about hurting themselves or others.
Hostility, reactivity, impulsive aggression and reoccurring violent outbursts may also be characteristic of someone experiencing anger issues.
People that feel overwhelmed by their anger and anger-related emotions should seek help to self-manage their feelings, and working with a professional can help you learn the tools you need to feel more balanced.
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Where to seek help to manage your anger
Those who have sought help for anger issues were most likely to do so from a health professional (such as a counsellor, therapist, GP or nurse), rather than from friends and family, social workers, employers or voluntary organisations. This is unique because for many emotional and mental issues, such as depression, social support from friends and family is especially important for those seeking help. And just like depression, unmanaged and explosive anger can have a deep impact on your loved ones.
How to treat anger management & how we can help
Mindworks works with clients to introduce them to our ground-breaking approach called Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) which has been proven scientifically with years of evidence that shows that it helps people struggling with stress, anxiety, anger and depression and those who just want to find a rich and more meaningful life to live. For more information about my approach to therapy and learn more about ACT, reference the interview that I recently did with RingMD or book an appointment at: https://www.ring.md/practitioner_profiles/ian-disley-mac (I offer a free, initial consultation to understand if I have the support and skills that you are looking for).
In my opinion and from my experience, I have found that ACT is relevant to us all, as it can offer each and every one of us an insight into daily stresses and struggles that we will all inevitably experience from time to time.
You are not alone
My team specialises in teaching anger management techniques and we run courses on it; help is at hand so drop the rope in your tug-of-war with anger and get in touch for a free initial consultation. See our website for more detail (http://www.mindworkscoaching.co.uk/) or you can message me directly through my RingMD profile for more information and ask about our ‘Anger Management’ courses, Life Coaching sessions and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy Service. And a free initial consultation.
To find out more about the causes, symptoms, and treatment options for anger management, contact Ian Disley of Mindworks Health and Well-being Services directly through his profile here. Ian also specialises in helping people dealing with LGBT-related issues, stress, anxiety and depression.